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06/01/2017

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Karen L K

Thanks so much for sharing yourself. I hope the sharing helped a little bit. I'm sorry you had to go through being bullied. I hope things continue to go well with your photography. I love your photos of the Tahoe area. They are so great and that area of course is so nice. I really enjoy your card posts too! Thanks for the restaurant mentions since I was in the area recently it helps to have a local make some recommendations. Hang in there.

Kathy Mc

Oh, dear Wanda! Why oh why do some people have to be so mean? It's easy to suggest not wasting time on people like that but it's still very hurtful and usually unexpected. My DH and I (retired in 2005 & 2004, respectively) worked for large corporations so met lots of people and still socialize with several of them. We often say how nice it would have been to not commute daily, but then we wouldn't be as acquainted with former coworkers. Because I only know you from SSS and now PTI blog posting, I was under the impression life for you was just grand. You always sounded so enthused in your posts, and it showed in your creativity. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all these distractions. Hang in there, kiddo! xoxo

Ashley Newell

Wanda, I'm so sorry to hear about this rough transition in your life and the people who have hurt you. I remember after Brady was born and I started staying home, it was so rough on me. As an extrovert, that lack of people drove me crazy. Maybe if you have days when you just write or edit photos, you could try sitting at a coffee shop? Talk to the cashiers and baristas or at the very least absorb the hustle and bustle of the people. I hope things are looking better for you soon!

Paulette Still

Hi Wanda! I'm so sorry. I feel like I've missed so much. Work consumes me. I give my all and I've got nothing left. I did manage to honk out my massive greeting cards gifts for the Mother's Day holiday, but I haven't even taken pictures of those cards or blogged them either. But hey, I'm kicking it in the work place again and I feel good about that. It pays the bills and I get to buy clothes and crafts stuff! Yay!

Have you heard that phrase, A friend for a Reason or a Season. It's so true. I have lost a few great relationships. They were great to Me, anyway. We ALL make sacrifices early or late in the game. I loved the analogy of the shoes. We all have Pride and Feelings. I've come to realize that Honesty, is not always the best policy no matter how good it's intentions are and no matter how Right you are. You still have the pride and feelings of the person too. I find that many times, it's not You or Me, it's the other person. It's their hang ups, their problems or their inability to cope with things in their life you have nothing to do with. We all cope differently just like we all grieve or learn differently. And sometimes people are just plain old jealous and don't know how to deal with their feelings. Keep doing what you're doing. You have so much talent and love and faith to share. (((Big Hugs))). Https://paulettesprettypapercrafts.wordpress.com
I still have the glitch on Typepad blogs with my WP blog address so its typed here. Love Ya Wanda!

Nora

I read this blog post from my phone the other day and did not have a chance to comment so I am back. First, your photos are STUNNING!! Second, I can totally relate to your blog post. I am 48 and started menopause and have had such a difficult time dealing. I am oversensitive to anything and had to leave work for 3 days because I could not stop crying a couple weeks ago. It was horrible!! Something had happened to make me upset in the first place but my emotions were on overload. I had to go to the MD to get proper meds to help.

I am also sorry someone bullied you. You would think that as adults we would not have to deal with it but I know better. I work in a school and my co-workers are not always the kindest to each other. It is very disheartening because we are supposed to teach this to others and some people can not set a good example themselves. I just try to think of why they are this way and sometimes that helps.

That said, I also can relate that when you are feeling down, it is hard to create. I tend to do a lot of reading when I am like this, as well as just watch tv too. Anything to try to get my mind off of what I am feeling. Big hugs to you!!!

Larissa Heskett

LOVE LOVE LOVE your BEAUTIFUL Photos and your HUGE HEART!! I still remember how EXCITED I was to meet you at the Stamp Joy Event and then I had to have my Accident and have BOTH arms broke with SEVERAL other injuries!! I felt SO SELF conscious and you made me FEEL SO at EASE!! I LOVED getting to meet you and take a Class from you!! You're AMAZING and DON'T EVER let ANYONE make you think/Feel otherwise!! THANKS for sharing and here's to EVERYTHING working its way out the Way God has it Planned!! HUGE HUGS!! <3 <3 <3

Carol

Sending hugs from the heartland of Missouri, I have those days too!
Your a wonder photographer and crafter,
I enjoy you newsletters and try my best to do a card the way you do!
God gives us strength to get though things, he wants the best for us, have faith, and know your loved by your followers to bad we all can't just hug you and let you know we're here for you...

donna mikasa

I'm so sorry you're hurting, Wanda! You are the most talented, creative person out there and maybe there's a bit of jealousy going on with your "friend". You are strong and you have so many who love you and support you and we're here to lift you up. Love you, friend, and I'm sure you know that we all do! Keep doing what you're doing and keep sharing your talent with us! HUGS!

Holly Saveur

Sweet and my most Dear Friend..see what sharing your pain..hurt and feelings...and being open en honest has opened a door filled with LOVE!!
Has helped you and others too..
We are not alone...although when we go through hard times it often feels so...
I think you did such a good thing by sharing this...
YOU are amazing..sweet ..loving...caring ... talented and SO dear to me
MUCH LOVE!!
Holly XOXOXOXO

Mary Koby

Hi Wanda,
I just want to send you a hug from San Diego. I, too, have been bullied. Luckily it was in the past, and an older, wiser me would have stood up to it more, rather than just taking it and being depressed by it! I now have the confidence to realize that bullying is the bully's problem, not mine. I hope you know how much we, your readers, love the way you share your photography, creative inspiration and honesty with us. Have you thought about traveling to teach classes and spend time with fans like me who always want to learn more. I wish you all the best.

Geneva

Big hugs to you my friend. So many people share your pain & more important share your love of art & just you. God loves you & so do I❤️

Peggysue

Sending big hugs your way and praying you will find comfort in all of the encouragement from friends posting here and from His word. I love, love, love your artwork and always look forward to seeing your posts although I don't often comment. I know also what it is like to be alone at home all day long, been looking for a job for over a year now to no avail, but at least I have some freelancing that dribbles in and then, there is always stamping and creating, like a balm to the heart! Just wanted to say I can readily identify with so many of your thoughts.

Athena

Hello Wanda, I don't comment on blog posts, but your words really spoke to me. You have been in my thoughts ever since I read your post. You are an amazing designer, photographer, and writer. I love your projects. My heart goes out to you and know that you are not alone. I am so sorry that you are going through this, but know that with time you will "heal". I think that jealousy and insecurity often cause those we consider our friends to cause us such heartache, and in the end I guess they weren't truly a "true friend". I am glad that you penned what you are going through right now. I hope that by doing so it helps separate YOU from the wrongs that have been done to you, and that it is a positive step in your healing process. God bless you. I wish I could do more for you, but know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Clare

Wanda, wow, can I just say, you are amazing. Your description of bullying (only happened once to me too) was so accurate, and my heart hurts for you and for everyone else who has experienced it. But through that issue, and work and friends, your positive and faith-filled outlook is just so awesome to see!
I know I'm not a regular here at your blog (I actually avoid following blogs and social media closely, because of that one bullying incident), but I've always been impressed by your projects, photography, writing and heart! I just love how positive and warm you are whenever you participate in the Hero Arts blog hops.
Adding my virtual hug to everyone else's - you are amazing, Wanda!

Patricia Roebuck

Oh my goodness girl! How I can relate so much to the loneliness and kind of sort of missing an office or a place to connect with people. Oh and the depression. I have clammed up a lot more lately. Just no desire and nothing to share makes it that much harder. I am so sorry about the friendships and the struggles. I try not to think of some past things myself. Thank you for sharing. It takes a lot to do this and it is like you are sitting down talking with me and us. I love you, girl!! You won't be getting rid of me!! ❤️❤️❤️

Denise Ferguson

I just love your photographs! Ther're breathtakingly gorgeous. I hope you soon discover the reason when your friend is no longer in your life. Who knows--the good Lord my be protecting you from something much more devastating in the long run. We aren't supposed to understand everything & that's tough some times. It sounds like you have many blessings in your life, so please don't worry about the things you can't control. Your crafting community sounds amazing! Enjoy your summer & thanks for the inspiration you give us!

Teresa Doyle

Dear sweet Wanda! It hurt my heart to read that you of all people would be struggling in such a way! I realize that I only "know you" through your work and what you have shared through your blog posts but even I know you are a kind and thoughtful person. How could anyone who knows you personally not see your genuine heart? I have been through the same thing you described with a SIL and tried to talk to her, only to be told it was "all in my head" and I was being "tetchy"! I was trying to reach out and make right whatever I said or did to offend her. She shut me down. That was 8 yrs. ago. After a long period of depression over it, I have finally come to realize I don't need those kind of "friends", family or otherwise! It can suck us down to a place no one should ever be in. I prefer people like you as a friend (albeit a cyber friend! LOL), at least I know you are genuine! (Please don't feel like you are ever alone. Do as you have done today...reach out, post, call a real friend but don't suffer alone! My email is: elyod.aseret@gmail.com if you ever need to vent! LOL {{{HUGS & PRAYERS going out to YOU}}}

As for Theresa Caputo, you lucky dog! OMGoodness, I LOVE her! I will be waiting for a LONG post about that!

Lizzie T

Wanda - wow I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through some things and am sending good thoughts and hugs your way! It will work out - everything happens for a reason. I really believe that whether it's good or bad there's a reason behind it. And it makes you a stronger and better person!
I must say your photos are STUNNING! You are very talented! Keep your chin up and know that we adore you and feel honored that you are sharing your heart with us!
Keep the faith and happy anniversary - enjoy that concert!!!!!

Christy Q

Wanda - what a heartfelt post! I'm praying for you and will keep you in my prayers. My own heart has been going through some struggles lately as well and I admire you for being brave to share something so deeply personal.

Your beautiful cards always inspire me, as do your photos. Wow! I especially adored your gerbera daisy photo and your hydrangea - stunning!

Vicki

Thank you for a wonderful reminder that we are all human. I loved your blog post today. There are no guarantees in life but if we try to live honest, love our God and be grateful each day, I think we're doing pretty good. Your photos are inspiring and beautiful and if I met you I know you would be a person I would enjoy as a friend. I also suffer from some of the things you mentioned and some days it's SO hard. I hope at some point you can have peace and realize that you are a good person. I'm so sorry your faith in "friends" has been shattered. It seems that you are on the right path to letting it go and moving on. By the way, I think your card designs are over the top fantastic! Sending lots of hugs your way. ❤️

Susan T

Hang in there. You are blessed and I am bless to have your blog to stop by when I have the time.

Anne Sturgeon

Just seeing these wonderful photos make me know your world is full of beauty. You will come through these trials in great shape. I have a younger sister who has totally disconnected with our family and none of us have a clue why. My oldest brother passed in February and she never came to the service or reached out to any of his children. Life is short and we need each other. I appreciate you and look forward to seeing your work and inspiration. Sending hugs and my prayer for you is be well.....

Holly

Wanda, I just wanted to thank you for this honest, heartfelt post. I think it's touched more people than you'll ever know and has helped a lot of us in a variety of ways. I'm so sorry you're going through all of these things and I think you're right, transition is always hard, but what comes out on the other side, is always better. I'm also going through a sort of depression--my husband and I don't have kids (by choice), but we had a beloved kitty and 2 sibling Dalmatians. We've had to put all three down in the last 10.5 months (we had to put our kitty down on May 3 and our last doggy yesterday). We're so empty and sad. I've also had work issues and loss of friendships in the past few years, too. So you're definitely not alone, nor are your readers and that's why it was so nice to be reminded of this. We all share this thing called "the human experience," but sometimes don't talk about certain things (like the loss of friendships), but we all go through them. I've been following your blog and IG for a while now, and I know what an inspiration you are to so many people. You are so incredibly talented (in your photography, card making and I have a feeling you're a great cook, too!)I wish I lived near you because I think we'd be friends. :) Thank you so much for sharing your life with us.

Rosa M. Vasquez

Well, all the comments should assure you have many, many friends around you. We care about you and enjoy your creativity, trips and photos! As for the "friend" you lost, it was her not you. Don't sweat it!

Volunteering is a way of working without giving up creative time. You decide the hours and days and the hospital, library, museum, school, etc. will love you for it! Some photographers have been taking photos of the animals at the rescue centers. It helps the critters get adopted.

Maria Patrick

Oh, Wanda! Sorry to hear that you are struggling with certain people. I went through a very difficult time with one of my sisters recently. My pastor helped me realize that she is a child of God just as I am. The vision he gave me is that each one of us are being held by God at the same time and that he loves us equally. I don't know why, but the vision just helped me. We had a family get-together the following week and I just felt so much better. I had forgiveness in my heart for her. Things are not perfect between us, but I learned to let it go. She will always be the way she is, but I can let go and love her. It could be that your friend is struggling with something that she doesn't want to admit to. So, it is on her, Wanda. You did your best. God doesn't want you to keep owning it if you did your best about the situation. I don't mean to get preachy here, but just feel these are the words that are flowing to help. You are a sweet person. You are blessed and very creative. It takes time, but I know you will feel better about things. I retired two years ago myself and feel disconnected at times. But, I slowly see things coming into my path that are meant to be with church and crafty things with friends. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. And, thank you so much for sharing those gorgeous photos! You are talented in so many ways! Take good care, hugs!!

Cheryl

You are awesome! Thank you for sharing what you're going thru. I know you'll be on the other side of all this with a HUGE smile on your face very soon. Your photos are FABULOUS! Thanks for sharing them. I look forward to seeing more.

Diana K

Big hugs to you, Wanda. I just know you've helped a lot of people today by sharing your story. Even though I know it can't be true, I "see" someone on social media and imagine that their lives are super fabulous and much more interesting than mine. In the end, it always comes down to all of us being human and sharing the exact same emotions, no matter who we are and no matter where we live in this world. Thanks for opening up and I hope it helps you too. You are so creative and I love all the beautiful things you share with us!

sharon l

Hey,there, fellow Californian. Don't you just love all the different scenes in this great state? At the time I finished drooling your wonderful photos I was smelling the earth and hearing a waterfall. I too, have lost what I thought was a treasured work friend. I am no longer in that poisonous situation. I am a changed person. I have reconciled myself with the fact I will never be as I was then. It has effected by crafting also. Just know your beautiful art and photography will pull you though. So here is a hug for you!

mommyeyedr

PS your photography is amazing. I would even try to each a radish looking at them.

mommyeyedr

Big Hugs~! You are a beautiful amazing person and have such a beautiful soul. Sometimes our lives just need purging too. So happy to hear that you are pushing forward. Life is worth it and true friendship is too. Been trying to teach my daughter these lessons at 14. She has a friend that is brutally honest with her to the point of cruelty and she is drawn back into the friendship. On one hand it makes me angry but on the other hand it is nice that she is so honest. So hard to choose which is better but after reading your blog. I feel honesty is the best policy. Working at home would be definitely hard for me. I'm just getting used to staying home all day on a day off. Used to have to go somewhere, couldn't stay home all day but with crafting makes it more fun to stay home. LOL. I absolutely need social contact daily. Can only talk to the family so much :) Keep your chin up and above the water of chaos! Big Hugs!

Verna Angerhofer

I am so glad you shared your concerns and maybe just that alone will help you cope better with your depression. And, your photography is amazing. You certainly are talented in more ways then one as I always love to see your wonderful cards. I hope things will soon be better for you and maybe the nice summery days will bring you joy again! Hang in there!

Jane

Wanda you are my dearest friend. Our friendship has grown over the years that we have known each other. People can be incredibly cruel and when we are on the receiving end of the cruelty it is very hard to not be affected forevermore. I have always admired you and hold you in highest esteem. Those that shun you are not worth the pain. The pain does need to be experienced but when done you get to move on and they stay stuck. Your ability to rise above and continue on will never leave you. God, being your anchor, will get you through this. Just know that I love you and you are my very dearest friend.
P.S. your amazing creativity and the beauty you bring to others is a true gift. God Bless

Natalie Houston

Oh look at all the sweet hugs of comfort and encouragement you are receiving. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and are not alone. I know how you feel, I've been through it too. It's hard. It sure can make you examine everything, doesn't it?! And that can make us either bitter or better. Thankfully you have the Lord to help you and I know you can rely on His strength to overcome and I know you are better for it. Look at all that outpour of love encouragement here! If that doesn't just give you some joy bumps (instead of goose bumps! ha!) I don't know what will. Grace and peace to you!
PS. Love the photos! You always inspire me.

Lydia Lee

I feel your pain and am still going through the same. Your post reminded me that I'm not alone in this feeling and that life happens but that we control how it affects us by regrouping, recharging, and recognizing. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us and know that we're praying for you. You are one of my favs and I always look forward to your posts and projects!

Mary GW

I got to the fourth paragraph and just started weeping uncontrollably because I have faced a similar heartbreak, with my first child, my beloved daughter. From a close relationship to a distance so profound that when I am faced with spending time with her I am fearful, sad and would choose to pass up a visit rather than to face the distance. It is so very painful to have your heart broken in such a way.

Prayers for healing and better days. Thank you for sharing.

Linda M.

Wanda, I hope all of these comments show you that you are loved by many--some people you know and some you don't know. I hope your sadness turns to joy soon. Hugs!

Shopgal247

Hugs to you for writing this post. Most of what you wrote I can relate to. I started to cry reading this because I thought I was the only one that hides in front of the TV. I also experienced losing a friend for reasons I don't know. You described it perfectly how I felt. You give me inspiration that this funk I am going through will pass and I will get my mojo back! Thank you for sharing!!

Angelina

Wanda, thanks for your post, sorry to hear you have been suffering! we read your posts and see your happy and colored cards not knowing what is behind!, i would love to hug you in person, but I can't, so i just want to remind you: YOU ARE ENOUGH, and God loves you very much. I am here whenever you need.

Cindy

Dear Wanda,

Hugs to you, special lady! While I have followed your blog for some time and have always been a huge fan of your work-cards and photography, I haven't let you know how much I always look forward to your posts. You are an artist and I am so envious. I can copy one of your cards, but could never have come up with the original in a million years. Creating is good for the soul, yours and mine, original or not. So, thank you for posting your artwork to inspire people like me.

As to the emotional stuff, I feel sad you have to go through this crap (and it is crap!). The loss of your friend and the loss of optimism are going to take some time to get through and it's going to be painful for a while, so don't be hard on yourself and think you have to fix it all right now. There is no set time line for grief and not everyone deals with it the same way. Since you seem like a wonderful, thoughtful, and of strong faith, I just know you will find the best way for YOU to get through this unbalanced time in your life.

I am going to throw out a suggestion and it's up to you to decide what to do with it-perhaps you could volunteer one day a week to get out of the house and see people. One of the best ways to get over a funk is to help others. It works for me and it might work for you.

Again, hugs to you, Wanda, from a huge fan of yours, Cindy

Debbie

Wanda, I was so touched by your post. It was in many ways a reflection of myself. I admire your honesty and courage in expressing your thoughts and feelings. It has made me feel a little better about myself this morning. Your photography is gorgeous. I have lived on the Cape my entire life and am anxiously waiting for my many varieties of hydrangeas to bloom. Sea breezes and scents of salt air drifting your way via blogland!

Trish

Thank you, dear soul, for sharing your story in such a heartfelt way. It will touch and encourage many people who struggle with these rough patches. I send you hugs and very best wishes for you moving through this time with love and grace.

Zehra

Hello Wanda- this was indeed heartfelt. U r an amazing photographer and a constant inspiration. Being depressed can make things look overwhelming. Being bullied can be hard. The good part is u are aware it happened rather than not know what hit u. Be steady, u r taking small steps, ur writing, ur meeting others, ur engaging others through words. Keep building that momentum. Some things that help- physical activity, eating fresh foods, sleeping well and avoiding drugs. I know right now u r hurting with ur friend being gone but hopefully in time u can remember all the good times and make new memories with new ones. Each one teaches us a new way of love- some for a short period and some for a long time. May God take care of u.

Michelle Short

I'm so sorry to hear what has been going on, Wanda. You are such a nice person and it saddens me to know that you have been struggling lately. I'm a firm believer that everything does happen for a reason, even if you do not know it at the time. Things happen to make us stronger, even if it's not nice going through it at the time. That being said, I hope things start to improve for you soon. I'm so happy to hear that you have met lots of new creatives and enjoying spending time with them. Although we are in different time zones, if you ever feel lonely, please do not hesitate to email or send me a message. I hate to think of you being lonely when you are so kind to others. Oh and your photos are stunning. I wish you all the best with your photography business! Sending hugs!

Anna

Being so real and honest isnt easy! Thank you!!! My MO is the same... RETREAT. Head for cover and dont come out until the coast is clear but keep fighting for wholeness and I am praying with and for you. And I am not a reader of tons of blogs but I first came across yours from a blog hop and LOVED IT. LOVED your writing style and wit. We are not perfect and life can be tricky.. keep up the good fight sweet woman!

Debbie Olson

{{{Wanda!}}} I'm sorry for the pain that you've been experiencing. You're right about pain and growth going together, but that doesn't make it any more fun. I think you're very brave to be open. I'm not that brave, for sure, but I do empathize, truly, and I'm asking God to bless and heal you.
Your work is truly beautiful--both your paper crafting AND your photographs! That Lake Tahoe one make me want to pull out my markers and color it! A big cyber hug to you--warm and squishy!

Stefanie White

Thank you so much for your honesty and your story. We do not know each other beyond me being a fan girl of your work (lol), but I had to reach out and tell you that I feel like you told my story in your blog. I recently stopped working in the office due to health issues. To add insult to injury I had a friend drop me too. Your words are true, "just tell me what Idid wrong"! Unfortunately I never found out but she did take the whole group with her, leaving me friendless after 10 years with these gals! Or do I thought. I opened up like you did today and the result was fantastic. I had a chance to reconnect with some of my old work friends that I had let the relationship lapse because I left the office. They introduced me to card making and I found peace and friendship where I least suspected it. Everything happens for a reason. God may have closed that door, but walk down the hall. Turn the other door knobs. And look for an open window too. It's there!
Best, Stefanie White

Tricia Barber

Hugs to you! I always love your photos and your cards! You will get thru this! Keep pushing forward each day whether it is an inch or a great big step! We are here to cheer you along!

Tracy

Hi Wanda, sorry to hear that you have been feeling blue, I have followed your blog for awhile now, and I love your creative work and your stories about your trips and pictures when you share them. I was so excited when you recently joined the Papertrey Ink DT. I just had a workshop today on emotional intelligence and your post is a great example of that, acknowledging how you are feeling and thinking about what it will take to move on. I am so sorry you are feeling bad, you seem like a person who would be a great friend to have! Love your pictures, and to add a question- my daughter also loves photography, has been taking pictures since she was old enough to know what a camera was, she has a scrapbook from when she was about 4 where she took "artsy" pictures of the furniture at her grandmother's house. She wants to study photojournalism/journalism/media production in college. She just had her 18th birthday and she wanted a new lens for her camera. The other thing she wanted was a film camera, so my question for you,is that a practical thing to still own in the digital age as a photographer? I was thinking it is not very practical, but would love to hear your thoughts and love to hear your story, I will share with her and continue to encourage her to follow her dream.

Julie

I'm proud to call you my friend and very proud of you for sharing your personal struggles on this blog. I read each of the responses above and hope you know how much people DO care about you and want you to succeed. Keeping you in my heart and in my prayers 💕💕💕

Jennifer

Hi Wanda! First, I am a huge fan of your work! Second, I don't normally comment too much on blogs but after reading your post today I felt compelled to leave a message. It is so brave of you to publish such a heartfelt message! I can completely relate to many of the things you have touched on. I also withdraw when I am feeling down, with the intention of not bringing others down. But the reality is that emotions are real and we shouldn't be afraid to hide them. So I think it's fantastic that you opened up! I hope things get better for you soon! You have many virtual supporters!! Hugs to you!!

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